Factors to Consider When Creating a Schedule
Thinking about the following factors as you create your custody schedule will help you make a schedule that fulfills your child's physical, emotional, and social needs and will help make your schedule more effective.
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Your schedule should be appropriate for your child's age. Babies and toddlers need to see each parent frequently without long periods of time between visits. Older children do well with many schedules and teenagers need a schedule that fits with their social life and other activities.
Different temperaments do well with different schedules. If your child is easy going then you have many options for a schedule. If your child struggles with exchanges or needs consistency and routine then you need a schedule that works for your child.
You may need to modify your schedule as your child grows older and matures.
The parenting time in your schedule should be arranged so that your child can receive needed care and help for special medical, developmental, educational, emotional, or social needs.
Your child may struggle with adjusting to the change in the family situation and/or have a hard time switching between parent's homes.
If your child has a hard time adapting to change you will want to look at many custody schedule options to find one that will help your child adapt. You may want a schedule that has less exchanges and longer time with each parent, or you may want a schedule that gives frequent contact with both parents so your child feels secure.
Plan your exchanges for times that work for your child's schedule. For example, if your child is in school than you could have exchanges be at the end of school. Or, if your child is in daycare the exchange can be picking the child up from daycare.
Avoid exchanges that will interrupt the child's schedule or routine. For example, if your child has a slow start in the morning and needs time to eat and get ready, have exchanges be in the afternoon or evening. If your child goes to bed early, schedule the exchange so there is enough time to get ready for bed.
Your schedule should allow your child to keep track of and complete homework assignments and projects for school. This may impact midweek visits and exchanges.
Whenever possible, both parents should have the opportunity to be involved with the child's education and schooling. Both parents should be willing to help with homework and meet with teachers.
If your child has extra activities, like sports or music, parenting time should be arranged so your child can still participate.
Parents typically have the same custody schedule for all of their children, but you can have a split custody arrangement where parents have custody of different children.
Your schedule should allow your child to have time with siblings and other family members. Both parents should encourage the child to have good relationships with family.
If you have multiple children, you may want to consider scheduling some time for each parent to have alone time with each child.
The distance between the parents' homes impacts what schedules are practical. Parents who live close by each other have many options for a schedule. Parents who have long distance schedules are more limited and will need to be open to finding parenting arrangements that will work.
The distance from each parent to the child's school, the child's daycare, or other places where the child spends time also impacts what schedule is practical.
You will have to schedule parenting time around each parent's work schedule and other obligations.
If one parent travels frequently for work you will probably need to be more flexible with parenting time.
For a child to stay with a parent, that parent must have a stable home environment for the child. If the parent does not have a stable home environment, the parents can consider having visits at the child's home or in a different place.
The amount of care that each parent provided the child before the separation influences the parenting time. If both parents have been very involved then the child can spend significant time with both parents.
If a parent has not been very involved in taking care of the child before the separation but wants to be more involved, you can start with a custody schedule that gives short, frequent visits to the parent. As the parent becomes more confident and comfortable with the child you can increase the duration and number of visits.
Your plan to share responsibilities will impact how you and the other parent split time and make decisions for the child.
Some schedules require a lot of communication and coordination between the parents. If parents get along reasonably well and can talk to each other without fighting they can consider these schedules.
Parents in high conflict situations will need to make a schedule that is very consistent and that requires less communication to work it out. You will also want to schedule exchanges so there is limited interaction.
Parents should not expose their children to fighting and conflict during exchanges or at other times. You may want to include schedule provisions about this in your parenting plan. Whenever possible, both parents should agree to the schedule so there is less conflict and fighting about it.
Depending on your child's age and maturity, you can talk to your child about your child's preferences for the parenting time schedule. You can take your child's preferences into consideration, but you and the other parent should decide on the final schedule.
Teenagers typically want more of a say in the schedule and as they get older they may want to work out the parenting time by talking directly to each parent.
Your child must be protected from danger. Any history of physical, emotional, or sexual abuse from either parent must significantly alter the custody schedule. You may need to have supervised visitation and use the court to protect to your child.
A parent who has a problem with substance abuse or has been involved with illegal activities may also need supervised visitation or court intervention.