Third-Party Time in Your Visitation Schedule

Third-party time is when your child isn't with either parent. This can be when your child is in day care or school, when they're with other relatives or even when they're sleeping.

Marking third-party time on your custody calendar shows you how much time each parent really spends with the child. This can help you create a schedule that makes both parents happy.

Using third-party time in your schedule

Here are some examples of how marking third-party time changes parenting time percentages. You can use a timeshare calculator to see how parenting time totals shift when you account for third-party time.

Example: Every-extended-weekend schedule

This every-extended-weekend schedule gives one parent 60% of the time with the child and the other parent 40%.

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If you mark when the child is in day care, the parenting time changes so each parent has roughly 50% of the time with the child.

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If you instead mark when the child is sleeping, you can see that one parent has nearly 70% of the child's waking hours, and the other parent has closer to 30%.

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Example: Every-weekend schedule

This every-weekend schedule gives one parent 70% of the time and the other parent 30%.

You can customize this with Custody X Change.

When you mark the time when the child is in school, the timeshare changes so one parent has 65% and the other has 35%.

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If you also mark the child's sleeping time, the parenting time changes again to 60/40.

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Example: 4-3 schedule

This 4-3 schedule gives one parent 60% of the time with the child and the other parent 40%.

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Adding three grandparent visits during the week changes the parenting timesplit to 55/45.

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You can arrive at roughly the same time split (55% for one parent, 45% for the other) by marking the child's daily nap as third-party time.

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Negotiating a schedule with third-party time

Accounting for third-party time when you calculate parenting time can make it easier to agree on a schedule.

Marking third-party time shows the quality time each parent gets with the child, so it can encourage parents to consider options they would otherwise write off.

For example, a schedule with a 60/40 parenting time divide may come closer to 50/50 if you mark third-party time. A 70/30 divide may come closer to 60/40.

Some courts require all of a child's time to be credited to one parent or the other, so they don't use third-party time. Even in this case, a calendar that shows third-party time can be useful for giving parents a clear picture of their timeshare.

The easiest way to make a third-party-time schedule

There's a lot to think about when you build a parenting time schedule. Don't forget to include any time your child spends away from both parents.

The Custody X Change app makes this easy. Mark repeating third-party time when you create your custody schedule. After, you can add in occasional third-party time by editing your schedule.

In either approach, when you see the drop-down menu titled "parent," choose "3rd party."

Then the period will not count toward your parenting time calculations. (The only exception is that when you tally overnight visits, nights with a third party count for the parent who had the child immediately prior. This is because courts generally require every overnight to be credited to a parent.)

You can customize this with Custody X Change.

To make a third-party schedule quickly and affordably, turn to Custody X Change. You'll get a written schedule and a visual calendar that meet your family's needs, as well as court standards.