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Shared Custody Agreements

How do I make a custody agreement?

You can write up your own custody agreement (on your own or with the other parent) or you can work with a lawyer or legal professional and have them create it. If you don't want to pay the high cost of a lawyer, and want to easily make your own agreement, you can use the Custody X Change software.

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What is shared custody?

Different states use different terms for shared custody — and slightly different definitions.

For example, Texas calls it joint managing conservatorship. In California, it's joint custody.

In Delaware, shared physical custody means the child spends at least 35 percent of their time with each parent. In Alaska, the minimum percentage is 30.

Why share custody?

It's in the best interest of a child to be raised by two good, loving parents.

If the other parent has harmed or might harm your child, you may attempt to obtain sole legal or sole physical custody to protect them. A child should not be subjected to living with a parent who is violent, abusive, or has a substance abuse problem. A parent who's unwilling or unable to protect their child from harm should not have custody.

However, if a child has two good parents, common sense dictates that the child should be able to spend time with both of them. Studies have shown that children benefit from having frequent and ongoing contact with both of their parents.

Sharing custody is the best way to help your child have a good relationship with both parents. Children with two parents who are actively involved in their lives generally grow up to be better adjusted and experience less depression than children with only one active parent do. Parents do not have to live together in order to co-parent and raise their child.

How do I make a shared custody agreement?

You will need to work with the other parent to create your custody agreement. Some parents are able to set their differences aside for the sake of their child and create a plan. Other parents will need help, such as counseling or mediation, in order to reach an agreement.

Your custody agreement should include provisions that deal with the child's legal and physical custody. You will need to decide who will be responsible for making the important decisions in your child's life and include rules you both agree to follow.

Your agreement should also include methods for reviewing and modifying the plan. The needs of your child may change as they grow, so you may need to make changes to the plan in the future.

Your custody agreement should contain a method of dispute resolution in case you disagree about something in the future. Returning to court should be the last option.

You will need to include a child visitation schedule that states when the child will be with each parent. Your visitation schedule should consist of a regular visitation schedule that dictates where the child will be on a routine basis as well as a schedule for holidays and vacations.

You may also want to designate a primary residence for the child. This will be the address you use on school forms, for medical records, and other important paperwork.

You can use Custody X Change to create a well-organized and professional custody agreement. You simply navigate through each section of the software and enter the requested information.

You can even use Custody X Change to create a proposed parenting plan to present to the other parent. You can create the parenting plan and give a copy to the other parent for review. Then you can work out a compromise on the issues you don't agree on. It is easy to go back and make changes to your custody plan when you use Custody X Change.

Once you've made your revisions you will be ready to present your custody agreement to the court.

How much time with each parent is enough?

The amount of time your child will spend with each parent depends on your child and your situation. Shared parenting does not necessarily mean the child is going to have to spend an equal amount of time with both parents.

A 50/50 custody plan divides the child's time evenly. This may work well for parents that live close to each other because the child can still go to school and see their friends without having to be driven across town.

If you want to have a 50/50 custody agreement, you may want to consider either a 2-2-5-5 schedule or a 3-4-4-3 schedule. The child would spend two days with Mom, then two days with Dad, then five days with Mom, then five days with Dad (or 3-4-4-3, depending on the nature of your schedule). This allows your child to spend the same amount of time with each of you without going too long in between seeing each parent.

Your schedule is entirely up to you. You could have the child spend every Wednesday and Thursday with one parent, then alternate weekends. You could exchange the child every Wednesday so he spends a week with each of you. You could have the child go to one parent's house every day after school until the other parent gets home from work. Examine your schedules and go from there.

When you use Custody X Change to create your visitation schedule, you have the flexibility and means to create your schedule any way you would like. You can set a repeating cycle, add in holidays, and print out the schedule in written and calendar forms. It is an excellent tool you can use to create your shared custody agreement.

The easiest way to make a custody agreement

Creating a custody agreement on your own can feel overwhelming. You have to be sure to use airtight legal language and can't omit any required information.

Use technology to take the guesswork out of the equation. The Custody X Change app walks you through each step of creating a comprehensive custody agreement.

The result is a professional document that demonstrates your competence as a parent and secures your child's future.

The easiest and most reliable way to make a custody agreement is with Custody X Change.

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Examples:

Schedules

Long distance schedules

Third party schedules

Holidays

Summer break

Parenting provisions

Scheduling:

How to make a schedule

Factors to consider

Parenting plans:

Making a parenting plan

Changing your plan

Interstate, long distance

Temporary plans

Guides by location:

Parenting plans

Scheduling guidelines

Child support calculators

Age guidelines:

Birth to 18 months

18 months to 3 years

3 to 5 years

5 to 13 years

13 to 18 years

Terminology:

Joint physical custody

Sole physical custody

Joint legal custody

Sole legal custody

Product features:

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Printable calendars

Parenting plan templates

Journal what happens

Expense sharing

Parenting time tracking

Calculate time & overnights

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