3 Steps to Settling Child Custody in New Jersey

In most situations, settling is the optimal way to get a custody order. It keeps parenting decisions in parents' hands and resolves the case quickly.

When parents settle custody, they develop an agreement together and file it with the court. (Parents settling divorce along with custody follow a slightly different process).

Note that cases that have Child Protective Services or a similar agency involved cannot settle.

An alternative dispute resolution method like mediation, which is usually mandatory for parents who can't agree on their own, can help you reach an understanding. You can also discuss settlement at court conferences.

Once parents have negotiated successfully, they follow the steps below, with minor variation by county.

An attorney or legal services office can guide you through the process and ensure your documents cover all the bases.

Draft a parenting plan that lays out the terms of your agreement. New Jersey does not have a standard template, so you can use any format, such as the Custody X Change parenting plan template.

Once both parents sign the plan in front of a notary, make three copies.

If you haven't already, open a case.

Attorneys recommend the defending parent respond to the complaint. This protects the defendant's right to contest if the plaintiff changes any terms.

Take your plan and one copy to the Family Division of the Superior Court where you opened your case. The court clerk will forward it to the judge for review.

The judge will more than likely approve your agreement. You'll receive a copy of the signed final order in the mail or via email.

The custody journey continues after you receive a final order. Now your responsibilities include:

• Following your custody schedule closely
• Keeping detailed notes if the other parent violates court orders
• Tracking child-related expenses if your custody agreement calls for splitting costs
• Developing a new parenting plan if necessary (or asking to court to do it)

To do all of this and more with one tool, use Custody X Change. The app's calendars, custody journal, expense tracker and parenting plan template make life after settlement as straightforward as the settlement itself.