How to Prepare for Child Custody Mediation
Before you attend custody mediation, you should prepare so you can explain your ideas for your schedule and plan.
Custody X Change is software that creates parenting schedules and plans. You can use the software to help you prepare for mediation.
Here are some things you can do with the software to help you prepare for mediation.
Exploring schedule ideas and looking at them in the calendar helps you find schedule options to bring to mediation. In mediation, you and the other parent can look at the different schedules and give input about what will work. You can make changes and combine ideas until you find a good schedule for your situation.
The timeshare calculator shows you the parenting timeshare percentage as you make a schedule. You can use this as you create schedules and also to show the other parent how much parenting time each parent has with various schedule ideas.
Provisions are rules or guidelines in your plan to help your plan work better and to help the parents divide and share parental responsibility.
You can look at provision ideas before going to mediation to help you:
- Prepare to discuss important topics for your plan
- Think about problems and possible solutions
- Decide on rules or provisions you want to include in your plan
You can present documents at mediation to show and describe your ideas.
You can print the following documents as you prepare:
- Calendars of parenting time schedules
- Lists of parenting provisions for the plan
- Complete plans with a written schedule and provisions
- Timeshare percentage reports that show the time each parent has the child
You can print multiple copies so the mediator and other parent can see what you're explaining when you present your plan.
If you and the other parent are meeting multiple times, the other parent can take your documents home to think about and write notes or questions. You can also easily make changes to a schedule or plan based on input from the other parent and print out new documents to review.
Before attending mediation, or while in the process of figuring out arrangements through mediation, you can track the actual parenting time that each parent has with the child and keep a custody journal about your situation.
You can bring this information to mediation to support your plan and schedule ideas.
Here are some tips for making your mediation session successful:
- Focus on the your child's best interest as you make decisions
- Listen to the mediator and the other parent
- Get enough sleep the night before
- Set aside personal conflicts with the other parent
- Be courteous, calm, and professional
- Stay on topic and avoid talking about other issues
- Be willing to compromise on your plan and schedule
- Bring multiple plan and schedule ideas to discuss
- Write down concerns and issues you want to discuss at mediation
- Bring documents like work schedules and your child's school schedule