When Joint Physical Custody Works
Custody refers to the physical and legal custody of your child.
Physical custody is where your child resides physically, or where your child lives, and the everyday care of your child.
Joint physical custody, also called shared physical custody, means that your child spends substantial time living with both parents and both parents have equal responsibility to physically care for your child.
Joint physical custody does not mean that both parents have equal time with the child. Rather, it means that both parents have substantial and frequent time with the child.
The alternative to shared physical custody is sole physical custody.
Custody X Change is software that helps parents create a joint custody schedule and custody agreement.
Joint or shared custody works well when:
- Parents agree that a joint custody arrangement is in the best interest of their child.
- Parents cooperate reasonably well and can make decisions together.
- Parents live fairly close to each other and a joint arrangement is logistically possible
- Both parents want to be very involved in raising their children
- There is no history of child abuse, domestic violence, or kidnapping
Joint custody can work with almost any parenting time schedule. If your child needs to live primarily with one parent, you can give more time to the other parent with midweek visits, extended weekends, longer holiday breaks, and school break visits. The other parent can also have contact with the child through phone calls, email, texting, attending the child's events and activities, etc.
Children generally do better if both parents are significantly involved in their lives. If you and the other parent can make joint custody work, it will benefit your child.
If you have joint custody, you need to make a parenting time schedule that shows when your child spends time with each parent.
Some common shared parenting time schedules are:
- Alternating weeks schedule when the child lives with one parent for one week and the other parent the next week
- Two weeks each schedule when the child lives with one parent for two weeks and the other parent the next two weeks
- 2-2-3 schedule where the child lives with one parent for two days, the other parent for two days and the parents alternate a three day weekend
- 2-2-5-5 schedule where the child lives with one parent for two days, the other parent for two days, then the first parent for five days and the second parent for five days
- 3-4-4-3 schedule where the child lives with one parent for three days, the other parent for four days, then the first parent for four days and the second parent for three days
- Every weekend schedule where the child lives with one parent during the week and the other parent for an extended weekend
- 4-3 schedule where the child lives with one parent for four days and the other parent for three days
You can always add midweek or overnight visits during the week to make the schedule better suited for your situation.
You may want to use a visitation timeshare calculator when you make your schedule to ensure that both parents have substantial time with the children.
Many states have laws that give preference for joint custody. Courts in these states will order joint custody as the default unless a parent can prove that joint custody is harmful to the child.
Look at your state custody guidelines to find out what your court prefers. Some states require that both parents have a minimum amount of time with the child in order for the arrangement to be labeled joint custody. Other states simply require both parents to have substantial and frequent contact with the child.