A Holiday Custody and Visitation Schedule
Setting up the holiday custody and visitation schedule is a very important part of your parenting time schedule. Children have a lot of memories and expectations that go along with holidays, and when parents separate or divorce the children can have great anxiety that their holidays will no longer be any fun. You need to make a schedule and be prepared to discuss it with your children. You should explain to them how the holiday schedule will work and reassure the children that holidays will still be special family time, but the child will celebrate the holiday differently than before. Here are some ideas for preparing your holiday schedule.
You actually have some options when it comes to holidays. First, you and the other parent need to decide how you will share holiday time. You can choose to divide the day of the holiday between both parents, you can alternate important holidays, you can do a combination of both methods, and you can give both parents separate days to celebrate the same holiday. Here are some example holiday custody schedules.
Let’s say you and the other parent want to split the holiday time on the actually holiday. First, you want to make a list of all of the holidays that you want to share. Common shared holidays include Easter, July 4th, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. Then you decide which parent has the child for the first half of the day and which parent has the child the second half of the day. You should also determine how the transportation will work on the holiday.
A slight variation of sharing the holiday is to give both parents a time to celebrate the holiday. For example, one parent can have the child on Christmas Eve, and the other parent has the child on Christmas day. One parent has the child on Thanksgiving day, and the other parent has them for the weekend following Thanksgiving. This can be a nice arrangement for the child because the child has time to settle in and actually enjoy the holiday.
Another holiday visitation schedule option is for you and the other parent to alternate the major holidays. In this case, you should make a list of all of the holidays you want to celebrate. The list can be extensive and include all holidays, or as few holidays as the you want. You and the other parent then go through and divide the holidays. You can agree to swap holidays every year so that they end up with a fair schedule. You can also choose a different method of alternating holidays–some parents create a new holiday schedule every year.
Remember that the holiday schedule should be made according to what is best for the child. Because of this, you may find that a combination of the above methods works best. Some of the holidays can be shared, and other holidays can be alternated. Determine what is best for your child and celebrate the holidays accordingly.
Custody X Change makes it easy to set up a holiday custody schedule. There is a Canadian, Australian, and US version of the software so you can set up a Canadian holiday custody schedule, Australian holiday custody schedule, or US holiday custody schedule. You can download the free edition of the software to see how it can help you assign holiday time.