Promote the Positive With A Standard Custody Schedule

It can be challenging to follow the standard custody schedule that now regulates when you get to spend time your children. Even though you are separated from the other parent, you’ve both outlined in your standard parenting plan how you will raise your children.

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In that plan, you both agreed on common parenting goals that will help your children grow and develop into healthy adults. Making your visitations meaningful and positive can really help you accomplish that goal.

Parenting Goals

Divorced parents can treat visitations as positive experiences that enable their children to form lasting bonds with both parents. Because divorce is laced with hurt, pain and frustration, it may seem easy to use visitations as a weapon against the other parent, but this only hurts the children.

Here are 5 simple goals that you and the other parent can strive for when it comes to co-parenting your children:

  1. Encourage visitations with the other parent and see them as a positive influence in your children’s lives.
  2. Understand that children can love and miss the other parent without reducing their love for you.
  3. Show respect for the other parent, especially in front of your children.
  4. Accept the other parent’s parenting views and strategies even if they differ from your own.
  5. Stay flexible with visitation schedules and help each other out for the benefit of your children.

Making the Schedule Work

When visitations with the non-custodial parent are positive, children learn to feel happy and safe in both places. In order for children to feel comfortable visiting the other parent, the custodial parent must do his or her part to make the transitions smooth and positive.

Here are a few tips on creating positive transitions and visitations:

  • Create a standard custody schedule that children can rely on for average weeks
  • Create schedules that cover holidays and vacations, then explain them clearly to the children
  • Keep the lines of communication open with the other parent
  • Agree on discipline methods and basic rules so the children experience consistency between your homes
  • Encourage visitation to extended family, such as grandparents
  • Make a checklist of items that the children bring on the visitation to make transitions easier
  • Talk positively about visitations and be upbeat during transitions between homes

When you create a typical custody schedule that outlines visitations, that’s just the first step in ensuring your children have a positive experience with the other parent. While you may be tempted to sabotage visitation time, it hurts your children far more than the other parent. It is in your children’s best interest to spend time with both parents who care for them and make them feel safe and loved.

Custody X Change is software that creates professional parenting plan documents and parenting schedules.

Make Your Schedule and Plan Now

Custody X Change is software that creates professional parenting plan documents and parenting schedules.

Make Your Plan