Creating the Perfect Temporary Visitation Schedule

In a perfect world, there would be no divorce. People would get married, have children, stay together forever, and sit out on a front porch swing watching their grandchildren playing in the yard.

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In a perfect world, even if there was divorce, parents would be able to sit down together and draft the custody arrangements for their children. Their excellent communication skills and ability to compromise would enable them to create a custody agreement that fulfilled all of the needs of their children. There wouldn’t be a need for divorce lawyers and going to court would be a minor inconvenience.

Unfortunately, the world is not perfect. Half of marriages end in divorce, and many families are broken up. Chances are if a couple was able to communicate and compromise in the first place, they would not be ending their marriage.

Divorce is a difficult time for everyone involved, especially the children. Many children feel caught in the middle of their parents’ chaos and some even blame themselves for causing the divorce.

Parents who truly care about the children will do everything they can in order to minimize the negative effects of the divorce. Good parents will be able to put their personal feelings aside and would not use their children as weapons to harm the other parent. They would not use the custody of their children as a method of financial extortion or deprivation.

When you file for divorce or custody of your child, you will be required to submit custody arrangements and a temporary visitation schedule to provide for the custody and care of your child until a custody order is finalized. A good way to make sure that you are looking out for the best interest of your child is to create a temporary custody agreement that is fair to both parents and the child.

Creating a temporary visitation schedule is your opportunity to prove to the court, your ex, and your child that you care about your child’s needs and you want what is best for her. There are too many parents who charge into court with a vendetta against the other parent. They try to get sole custody of their child in order to hurt the other parent.  What they fail to realize is that in trying to hurt the other parent, they are actually hurting their child.

A good parent will realize that children need both parents in their lives.  The old, generic, “every other weekend” visitation schedule is outdated and does not allow the child to spend enough time with the other parent.

An “every other weekend” visitation schedule forces children to have to wait two weeks in between “visits” with the other parent. Children should not have to feel like visitors in a parent’s home. They should be able to have liberal contact with both parents and should be able to be raised by two parents.

If you wouldn’t want to wait two weeks between visits with your child, why would you wish that upon the other parent? Your temporary visitation schedule should provide your child with frequent, ongoing contact with each of you.

You shouldn’t feel obligated to follow any standardized schedule. As your child’s parents, the court allows you the freedom to create your own custody arrangements. The court will approve your custody agreement if both of you agree to the plan and it meets the needs of your child.

It is likely that the court will adopt the temporary visitation schedule at the conclusion of your case. You should take the time to create the right schedule for your child.  If not, you will spend a lot of time in the courtroom litigating the custody of your child. You may also lose the ability to retain control of your child’s custody arrangements if the court feels the need to step in and make them for you.

Your plan may not be perfect. You may need to make adjustments to the visitation schedule or modify your temporary custody agreement as your case progresses. If you start out with good intentions, it is very likely that you will be pleased with the end result, which will be the perfect custody schedule for your child.

Custody X Change is software that creates professional parenting plan documents and parenting schedules.

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Custody X Change is software that creates professional parenting plan documents and parenting schedules.

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