A Parenting Plan Template for Parents in High Conflict

Philip M. Stahl has an excellent book called Parenting After Divorce: A Guide to Resolving Conflicts and Meeting Your Children’s  Needs. In this book, he has a section about parenting plans for parents with high conflict situations. As he talks about what is needed in the plan, he says: “You might find that more detail is needed than you think so that there is less conflict in the future. If you create a careful and well-thought-out parenting plan, you can save considerable aggravation later.” He than recommends the following parenting plan template for parents in high conflict.

Custody X Change is software that creates professional parenting plan documents and parenting schedules.

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1. A clear and well defined schedule. Along with a schedule that shows when each parent has the children, Stahl recommends that parents specify how exchanges will be made for visits, a procedure for a one-time change to the schedule, who has the ultimate power to decide when the parents disagree, etc.

2. Information about making decisions for the children. The parenting plan should state if the parent who has physical custody has the right to make daily decisions and how the parents will make big decisions together.

3. Information about financial responsibilities. The parents needs to decide how they will pay for things that aren’t covered by child support.

4. A process for how the parents will manage disputes. Parents can use mediation, arbitration, or another method to resolve disputes without going to court.

5. Provisions about: who will provide care when the parent isn’t available during custody time (the right of first refusal gives the other parent priority), how the parents will handle transportation during exchanges, how the parents will review and make changes to the plan, how the parents will handle additional responsibilities of parenting (like if the child gets sick, going to school meetings, etc), how the parents will manage the child’s religious education, and how the parents will share information with each other.

It makes a lot of sense if parents have a lot of conflict to make a really detailed parenting plan. The nice thing about the custody software Custody X Change, is that it lets parents add all of these parts to the plan. It also helps parents in high conflict because they can use the computer to make the process more objective–they can look at the screen and explore different options for parenting time, they can use the timeshare calculator to know exactly what’s going on, they can easily make sample and example plans, they can easily make changes as needed, etc. If you are in a high conflict custody situation, Stahl’s book can be a good reference. Custody X Change can also help you get a good, detailed parenting plan that can make the situation better.

Custody X Change is software that creates professional parenting plan documents and parenting schedules.

Make Your Schedule and Plan Now

Custody X Change is software that creates professional parenting plan documents and parenting schedules.

Make Your Plan