1st, 3rd, & 5th Weekends Custody
First, third and fifth weekends is a custody schedule that provides an 80/20 timeshare between parents. Find out if it's right for you.
The 1st, 3rd, & 5th weekends schedule is one choice in an 80/20 custody schedule. Your child will spend the majority of their time with one parent and the 1st, 3rd, & 5th weekends of the month with the other.
Below is a visual calendar of the 1st, 3rd, & 5th weekends made on the Custody X Change software. Time with the mother is represented in pink and the father blue.
This schedule is very consistent and easy to implement. Some parents prefer this schedule because they know what weekends they have each month.
Parents can live further away from each other and still have enough time with their child to have a great relationship.
It also works well if one parent has a unique or different work or school schedule. If they travel or teach/attend weekend classes, the schedule can be arranged so time with your child is not affected.
This schedule also does not require as much communication with the other parent. The childs overall well-being needs to be discussed but you don't have to sort out the complexities of more frequent exchanges with school and other activities.
The main issue with this type of schedule is weekends are pre-assigned. Depending on your relationship with the other parent, it may be difficult to switch weekends if something comes up.
Finally, some parents with 20% are upset they are not able to spend more time with their child. Make sure they are able to communicate with their child in other ways as much as possible.
- Consistent and easy to implement.
- Great if you and the other parent live further apart.
- Weekends are pre-assigned and can be worked into different work/school schedules.
- Good if you and the other parent are in conflict.
- Weekends are pre-assigned and may be difficult to change.
- Some parents struggle only being able to see their child every other weekend.
The biggest change you can make to the 1st, 3rd, & 5th weekends schedule is to change the time and possible the date of exchanges. Below are some different examples of how we have changed the schedule to meet different needs.
This first schedule is the basic close to the 1st, 3rd, & 5th weekends schedule above but we changed the time of the exchange. In this example, the mother picks up the child first thing Friday morning and returns on Sunday evening. This would be a great alternative if the parent has Fridays off or is unable to return the child on Monday morning.
This second example is a basic 1st, 3rd, & 5th weekends schedule but the first weekend of the month has been extended for the other parent to have one longer weekend a month. This is a great option if parents live further apart and it works with other schedules.
Creating an every weekend schedule using Custody X Change is very simple.
Next, click on the first tab, "Regular Schedule" and you will see a calendar. To the right of the calendar is a menu of all the different custody schedules or the ability to create your own. Under the 80/20 title, select 1st, 3rd, & 5th weekends.
The calendar will automatically fill out for you. You can now make any needed changes. Watch the video tutorial for additional information on creating a custody schedule.