Comments for Child Custody & Visitation Blog http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog The Custody X Change blog about child custody & visitation issues Fri, 07 Oct 2011 02:48:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= Comment on Louisiana Child Custody by Marie Tatum http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/2010/01/louisiana-child-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5186 Marie Tatum Fri, 07 Oct 2011 02:48:21 +0000 http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/?p=419#comment-5186 I don't think there is an official standard form for anything in Louisiana. You are pretty much on your own unless the court publishes their own, and most online sites don't have anything you can use in state either. There is only one site I know of that does, but it is pretty limited. JustTheForms.Com it has forms for uncontested simple divorces, grandparents visitation, and some custody forms you can use if you already have a court order, like motion for contempt and civil warrants. I guess there are no other forms because every case is so different, nothing is really standard. Good luck. I don’t think there is an official standard form for anything in Louisiana. You are pretty much on your own unless the court publishes their own, and most online sites don’t have anything you can use in state either. There is only one site I know of that does, but it is pretty limited. JustTheForms.Com it has forms for uncontested simple divorces, grandparents visitation, and some custody forms you can use if you already have a court order, like motion for contempt and civil warrants. I guess there are no other forms because every case is so different, nothing is really standard. Good luck.

]]> Comment on Examples of Joint Custody Schedules (2/2/5/5 and 3/3/4/4) by unhappily married http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/2009/07/examples-of-joint-custody-schedules/comment-page-1/#comment-5185 unhappily married Wed, 28 Sep 2011 05:54:51 +0000 http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/?p=44#comment-5185 This schedule looks crazy for children. I was thinking of father=1st 15 day, mother = remainder of the month, with 2 weeknights during each other's off weeks. Then the next year it is opposite. I don't know sounds like a better plan to me- less shuffling around. What do you think? I would like feedback from people that have joint custody now, as I am just in start of divorce process. This schedule looks crazy for children. I was thinking of father=1st 15 day, mother = remainder of the month, with 2 weeknights during each other’s off weeks. Then the next year it is opposite. I don’t know sounds like a better plan to me- less shuffling around. What do you think? I would like feedback from people that have joint custody now, as I am just in start of divorce process.

]]> Comment on Examples of Joint Custody Schedules (2/2/5/5 and 3/3/4/4) by marc http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/2009/07/examples-of-joint-custody-schedules/comment-page-1/#comment-5183 marc Wed, 14 Sep 2011 23:28:10 +0000 http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/?p=44#comment-5183 <a href="#comment-3211" rel="nofollow">@Brandi </a> If you son is young I get my son every tue-thur and every 1st and 3rd weekeds starting sat-sunday works well pretty close to 50% @Brandi
If you son is young I get my son every tue-thur and every 1st and 3rd weekeds starting sat-sunday works well pretty close to 50%

]]> Comment on Example Shared Parenting Custody Schedules — 2/2/3 and Variations Alternating Weeks by Jenny http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/2009/08/example-shared-parenting-custody-schedules-223-and-variations-alternating-weeks/comment-page-1/#comment-5182 Jenny Fri, 09 Sep 2011 01:45:23 +0000 http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/?p=118#comment-5182 Has anybody thought of the "nesting" plan? It's where the children stay put in the home they live in and the parents are the ones who move around. Only very selfless people can do this. Unfortunately, my ex is not one of them even though I would do it in a heartbeat to save my child anguish and separation anxiety from her home. Has anybody thought of the “nesting” plan? It’s where the children stay put in the home they live in and the parents are the ones who move around. Only very selfless people can do this. Unfortunately, my ex is not one of them even though I would do it in a heartbeat to save my child anguish and separation anxiety from her home.

]]> Comment on Examples of Joint Custody Schedules (2/2/5/5 and 3/3/4/4) by Schedules - Ottawa Divorce .com Forums http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/2009/07/examples-of-joint-custody-schedules/comment-page-1/#comment-5181 Schedules - Ottawa Divorce .com Forums Sat, 03 Sep 2011 00:11:35 +0000 http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/?p=44#comment-5181 [...] close. There is week on week off. 2-2-5-5 3-3-4-4 Here is a great article on it all: Examples of Joint Custody Schedules (2/2/5/5 and 3/3/4/4) | Custody Blog Custody Xchange is a great tool by the way. Good Luck! [...] [...] close. There is week on week off. 2-2-5-5 3-3-4-4 Here is a great article on it all: Examples of Joint Custody Schedules (2/2/5/5 and 3/3/4/4) | Custody Blog Custody Xchange is a great tool by the way. Good Luck! [...]

]]> Comment on Example Shared Parenting Custody Schedules — 2/2/3 and Variations Alternating Weeks by John Smith http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/2009/08/example-shared-parenting-custody-schedules-223-and-variations-alternating-weeks/comment-page-1/#comment-5180 John Smith Tue, 30 Aug 2011 01:45:55 +0000 http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/?p=118#comment-5180 I have an extremely hostile ex wife who is narcissistic and a religious fanatic. It gives me headaches to try and rationalize her two extremes. I had to move 80 miles away because of her false reports to the police. It has been a traumatic time for my daughter and I. The mother was engaged three weeks after the divorce and married a short time later. He is now divorcing her just four and a half years later. Church three times a week did not prosper their marriage. It has given our daughter who is now eleven a disdain for Christianity. I only see our daughter two days out of fourteen. I do have some excellent advice to share with all hurting parents of both genders. It is written, There is no greater love than to lay your life down for another. It means death to your own selfish will. Our children are our greatest legacy. When my wife was determined to end the marriage I was heartbroken mostly for our only daughter who was four at the time. I counselled with three pastors who had masters or doctorates. aI also counselled with a psychologist. I also listened to Laura Slezinger and James Dobson. Why so many? The advice was like a prison sentance. Yet the advice was consistant and unanimous. Don't date and don't remarry. Even the court ordered parenting class gave the same advice. It is now seven years with no dating and consequently no marriage. My daughter clings to me and is a joy to be with. I have disciplinary issues whereas the mother does. My daughter despised the man her mother married. Resents her mother for all the forced bible thumping and church attendance. We should not speak ill of the other parent. Their words and actions will speak volumes either positively or negatively. I will be sixty four years old when my daughter graduates from High School and I will. e finally free from her mother. The statistics for relationships with children are dismal. In the seventy percent range for failure. If you cannot reconcile do not look for a replacement. I am blessed that I did'nt and so is my beautiful daughter. I have an extremely hostile ex wife who is narcissistic and a religious fanatic. It gives me headaches to try and rationalize her two extremes. I had to move 80 miles away because of her false reports to the police. It has been a traumatic time for my daughter and I. The mother was engaged three weeks after the divorce and married a short time later. He is now divorcing her just four and a half years later. Church three times a week did not prosper their marriage. It has given our daughter who is now eleven a disdain for Christianity.

I only see our daughter two days out of fourteen. I do have some excellent advice to share with all hurting parents of both genders. It is written, There is no greater love than to lay your life down for another. It means death to your own selfish will. Our children are our greatest legacy. When my wife was determined to end the marriage I was heartbroken mostly for our only daughter who was four at the time. I counselled with three pastors who had masters or doctorates. aI also counselled with a psychologist. I also listened to Laura Slezinger and James Dobson. Why so many? The advice was like a prison sentance. Yet the advice was consistant and unanimous. Don’t date and don’t remarry. Even the court ordered parenting class gave the same advice. It is now seven years with no dating and consequently no marriage. My daughter clings to me and is a joy to be with. I have disciplinary issues whereas the mother does. My daughter despised the man her mother married. Resents her mother for all the forced bible thumping and church attendance. We should not speak ill of the other parent. Their words and actions will speak volumes either positively or negatively. I will be sixty four years old when my daughter graduates from High School and I will. e finally free from her mother. The statistics for relationships with children are dismal. In the seventy percent range for failure. If you cannot reconcile do not look for a replacement. I am blessed that I did’nt and so is my beautiful daughter.

]]> Comment on Example Shared Parenting Custody Schedules — 2/2/3 and Variations Alternating Weeks by chad http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/2009/08/example-shared-parenting-custody-schedules-223-and-variations-alternating-weeks/comment-page-1/#comment-5179 chad Sun, 28 Aug 2011 23:23:27 +0000 http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/?p=118#comment-5179 My own experieance tells me that a 50/50 program would be best. Right now I'm the non custodial parent that gets to see his kids 14% of the time. I have 3 children, two daughters aged 10 and 9 and an 8 year old son. You mothers don't know how difficult is is to be asked constantly why can't they stay the night more with you. Having to deal with a crying child is extremely painful. I never speak ill about their mother but she is the reason. Her unwillingness to compromise on the original custody agreement is the problem. She believes that I got too much time as per the state guidelines. The problem is that she doesn't undersatnd that they are a basic minimum. I think that some people do not understand that children grow up and they realize the truth of the matter and I belive that this does more damage to them. This is why we need a shared plan in those guidelines. My own experieance tells me that a 50/50 program would be best. Right now I’m the non custodial parent that gets to see his kids 14% of the time. I have 3 children, two daughters aged 10 and 9 and an 8 year old son. You mothers don’t know how difficult is is to be asked constantly why can’t they stay the night more with you. Having to deal with a crying child is extremely painful. I never speak ill about their mother but she is the reason. Her unwillingness to compromise on the original custody agreement is the problem. She believes that I got too much time as per the state guidelines. The problem is that she doesn’t undersatnd that they are a basic minimum. I think that some people do not understand that children grow up and they realize the truth of the matter and I belive that this does more damage to them. This is why we need a shared plan in those guidelines.

]]> Comment on Making a Visitation Calendar by Al http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/2010/10/making-a-visitation-calendar/comment-page-1/#comment-5178 Al Fri, 26 Aug 2011 02:57:54 +0000 http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/?p=695#comment-5178 If my ex and I decide to switch weekends at some point for the sake of mutual convenience (or whatever reason) can the calendar be set to continue the cycle of weekends as switched from that point onward? And then accommodate other potential switches in weekends as a "from this point forward" schedule switch? If my ex and I decide to switch weekends at some point for the sake of mutual convenience (or whatever reason) can the calendar be set to continue the cycle of weekends as switched from that point onward? And then accommodate other potential switches in weekends as a “from this point forward” schedule switch?

]]> Comment on Example Shared Parenting Custody Schedules — 2/2/3 and Variations Alternating Weeks by Rich http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/2009/08/example-shared-parenting-custody-schedules-223-and-variations-alternating-weeks/comment-page-1/#comment-5175 Rich Sun, 14 Aug 2011 02:49:27 +0000 http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/?p=118#comment-5175 <a href="#comment-961" rel="nofollow">@Paul </a> I wish you well Paul. Alot depends on your x's agenda. I know for my experience - we are over a year separated - by her choice. My sons -7 & 5. Are doing ok and adjusting. We are doing the week at home with me and then a week at her place...on top of that she work a union shift 10-6. Which allows my boys and I to have suppers together on the weeks they are at her place. And alternately I take them to her place in the mornings when they are on a week at home. This I believe is the "best" case scenario for a situation that three of us didn't have a say in...the struggle with this has been her recent agenda to reduce my contact with the boys...not letting them call or not answering my calls...playing games with switching up our schedule without telling us...not going into all our details suffice to say she is angry..and in my opinion she is trying to hurt me with the only thing she knows bothers me....not getting to spend time with my boys..currently I am working with my lawyer (as mediation didn't work for us...she felt she was being treated unfairly) and am presently needing to consider an alternate schedule to yet again accommodate her because she feels our exchanges are too conflictual (a term her lawyer taught her). I guess in my rambling...it is a real adjustment to a broken family and in my opinion no one wins. On top of that I find it a real challenge to balance what is truly best for my boys with dealing with her continual unpredictability along with my own needs/selfishness (I still struggle with the notion that through no choice of mine or my boys we now don't get to see each other everyday as I had always believed and intended - as I write this I have tried to call my boys today to see how they are doing and to talk with them about our camping trip on Monday...their mom has not given them the message or let them call) I went into my marriage naive and optimistically committed - a commitment I took very seriously.....I was fooled... I went into our trial separation naive and hopeful (I remember my lawyer warning me this could get ugly - to which I replied optimistically "not a chance, we are taking some time to reconcile") I went into our mediation weary but hopeful that the priority would be the boys well being....it quickly turned into possessions and money for her....the boys became leverage......I am now past mediation (we were about one session away from concluding our memorandum of understanding) and am now trusting the lawyers to best find the common ground between my soon to be x and me and hopefully satisfying her needs and issues while minimizing the negative impact on the boys and me......here's hoping. I initially came to this sight to see what alternate schedules have worked for other... However it is clear that non of us have something that REALLY works as much as we adjust to in hopes to minimize the damage on our children....I am open to comments and feedback.....I realize that 1 in 2 marriages fail but it sure feels like you are on your own.... @Paul
I wish you well Paul. Alot depends on your x’s agenda. I know for my experience – we are over a year separated – by her choice. My sons -7 & 5. Are doing ok and adjusting. We are doing the week at home with me and then a week at her place…on top of that she work a union shift 10-6. Which allows my boys and I to have suppers together on the weeks they are at her place. And alternately I take them to her place in the mornings when they are on a week at home. This I believe is the “best” case scenario for a situation that three of us didn’t have a say in…the struggle with this has been her recent agenda to reduce my contact with the boys…not letting them call or not answering my calls…playing games with switching up our schedule without telling us…not going into all our details suffice to say she is angry..and in my opinion she is trying to hurt me with the only thing she knows bothers me….not getting to spend time with my boys..currently I am working with my lawyer (as mediation didn’t work for us…she felt she was being treated unfairly) and am presently needing to consider an alternate schedule to yet again accommodate her because she feels our exchanges are too conflictual (a term her lawyer taught her). I guess in my rambling…it is a real adjustment to a broken family and in my opinion no one wins. On top of that I find it a real challenge to balance what is truly best for my boys with dealing with her continual unpredictability along with my own needs/selfishness (I still struggle with the notion that through no choice of mine or my boys we now don’t get to see each other everyday as I had always believed and intended – as I write this I have tried to call my boys today to see how they are doing and to talk with them about our camping trip on Monday…their mom has not given them the message or let them call)
I went into my marriage naive and optimistically committed – a commitment I took very seriously…..I was fooled… I went into our trial separation naive and hopeful (I remember my lawyer warning me this could get ugly – to which I replied optimistically “not a chance, we are taking some time to reconcile”) I went into our mediation weary but hopeful that the priority would be the boys well being….it quickly turned into possessions and money for her….the boys became leverage……I am now past mediation (we were about one session away from concluding our memorandum of understanding) and am now trusting the lawyers to best find the common ground between my soon to be x and me and hopefully satisfying her needs and issues while minimizing the negative impact on the boys and me……here’s hoping.
I initially came to this sight to see what alternate schedules have worked for other… However it is clear that non of us have something that REALLY works as much as we adjust to in hopes to minimize the damage on our children….I am open to comments and feedback…..I realize that 1 in 2 marriages fail but it sure feels like you are on your own….

]]> Comment on Examples of Common Custody Schedules — Part Three by alana jamieson http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/2009/08/examples-of-common-custody-schedules-part-three/comment-page-1/#comment-5174 alana jamieson Sun, 31 Jul 2011 05:56:34 +0000 http://www.custodyxchange.com/blog/?p=80#comment-5174 i was just wondering can i get a custordy agreement if the father can only see his child if his new girlfriend is not there? i was just wondering can i get a custordy agreement if the father can only see his child if his new girlfriend is not there?

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